I’m pretty sure we’ve all stumbled across the quote that states “nothing will ruin your 20’s more than thinking you should have your life together already.” While I do agree with this, I do believe that there are still some necessary actions that all twenty something’s should start doing right NOW. So you may not have it all together, but with a few of these suggestions, you’ll certainly have a great head start!
1) Be Content in your current state – As a 22 year old, I completely understand how challenging it is to live in this current social media age. We are constantly being bombarded with images and lifestyles that appear to be everything we could ever want. However, one of the worst things you could do at this age is to believe that you are not where you’re supposed to be based on the accomplishments of your peers. God has you right where he wants you to be. Don’t miss out on the lesson he’s trying to teach you because you’re too busy looking for the “next best thing.” You’re exactly where you should be, so embrace these moments and make the best of it.
2) Learn the art of commitment – I think it’s about time we stop playing all these games, don’t you? Following through with your commitments, whatever it may be will cause for your integrity level to increase. If you make a promise, don’t break it. If you commit to going somewhere, just go. Most importantly–if you commit to someone, recognize the importance in that and be mindful of what you’re doing every step of the way.
3) Find Yourself – Your twenties are such a beautiful time of discovery. Ensure that you take the time to find out what you truly believe. Write down the things that you refuse to negotiate on, the type of environment you wish to dwell in and the type of people you desire to surround yourself with. After this, make sure that everything you do after that point is helping you to remain true to who you are.
4) Let go of Unforgiveness – Whether you’re 19 or 45, this one never gets any easier. I’ve heard too many horror stories about older people who are still walking around with the weight of people who hurt them in the past. What people don’t realize is that holding on to what others have done to you only gives them more power over you! It takes so much more energy to hold grudges than it does to just release them from your life for good. Form the habit of learning to forgive NOW. Your future self will most certainly thank you for it!
5) Accept “IT” for what it is – People are people. They may hurt you, abuse you and mistreat you. But you know what? Life goes on… and it keeps going on. There is absolutely no point in remaining stagnant because of a situation that you refuse to stop dwelling on. Accept it for what it is, because as much as you want to believe you have all the control over a particular situation, you really don’t. There are just some things in life that happen to us not because we’re bad people or good people, but simply because that’s just life.
6) Choose your friends wisely – This of course goes back to my former friendship post that you can find here. But generally, the people you surround yourself with will ultimately determine the life you will lead. Rather than wasting time in your twenties by spending it with the wrong crowd, how about using the time to form successful friendships that you know will uplift you and yield greater results for yourself in the future.
7) Learn to Budget – Man do I need some help with this one. Lol. My mom thinks I have a serious spending issue and I’m beginning to agree with her. Seeing that I’m about to enter such an important phase in my life, I’m learning that it’s never too early to start budgeting your finances. The problem is, in the moment we believe we’re spending just a bit. But the few bucks you spend at Starbucks everyday and the new outfit for the weekend all adds up. Begin prioritizing and ensuring that you take care of all your big bills FIRST before anything else. Also, SAVE what you can when you can. You never know when you may need it!
8) Build your spiritual life – If you grew up in the church like me, there usually comes a time in your twenties when you begin questioning your beliefs. It’s also usually at this point that people begin straying away from the church. However, I think the best solution is to simply use this period to really grow in Christ. You can no longer depend on the teachings and prayers of your parents and grandparents. You must now find out what you believe and form your own personal relationship with God. This means washing yourself in the word and building your prayer life. Don’t get trapped into thinking that you’ll have more time. The time is NOW.
What are some things you would add to the list? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Let’s chat. (:
Until Next Time…