I’m often looked at oddly when I hold the door open for someone who’s far off in the distance, or the fact that I greet everyone with a smile on my good days and bad days alike. I try my best to be polite to everyone regardless of their age, and I’ll hug complete strangers just because it feels good. Now, I’m not sure if I was meant to be born in another era, but I’ve found that being kind simply isn’t second nature to most people anymore. I used to be the kind of person who would judge the person who didn’t hold the door for me or offer a helping hand when I was in need. I would quickly label them as an unkind person, or pass them off as a person who didn’t deserve to receive kindness from others.
It’s a good thing I’m not that person anymore. I now know that those are the people who actually need it the most. I’ve grown to realize that nobody comes out of their mother’s womb as a mean person. A person’s nature is a combination of various factors. Things like how you were raised, who were the people that raised you, the friends you have and the ones you lost. All of these add to who you are as an individual. Your culture cultivates who you are and media dictates who you’re supposed to be. If someone is unkind, don’t write them off just yet. I can almost always guarantee that they did not set out to be that way. However, their experiences have made them cautious, and that cautiousness then turned into a rotten attitude which makes them seem unapproachable.
I will never kid myself into thinking that there’s something so terribly wrong with me that cause those people to act the way they do towards me. It could very well mean that the person who didn’t say thank you when you held the door open for them is just having a bad day. That’s the kind of mindset I’ve had to take on in order to overlook the flaws in people and appreciate the good within them. The quote above is one of my absolute favorites. So simple, yet so profound. Just the way I like them. There’s no point in going around treating people the way they deserve to be treated. How will you ever grow as a person doing that? So yeah, there are some people you’ll come across that don’t deserve to see anything but your back while you’re walking away from them. But that doesn’t mean you should walk away. That’s where maturity comes in, and that’s when you’ll grasp what peace truly is. It’s being able to maintain a cheerful heart in the midst of adversity.
I love how great my God is, and the way that he has been wrecking my heart with lessons on pure love for the past few years. I’ve realized that it is only because of him why I am able to love people on purpose, not because they deserve it, but because it’s the right thing to do. There are people out there who are struggling daily to make ends meet, and your smile or sweet gesture could be the only high point of their week. Never allow the small percentage of people out there who will never appreciate your efforts to discourage you from showing kindness to everyone anyway. Kill people with kindness. You’ll in turn be a happier person, stress way less, and even live longer research shows.
When was the last time you showed love to someone?
There are hundreds of ways you can incorporate kindness in your every day routine. Here’s a list of just 10 acts of kindness you can start doing right now:
1) Send a Good Morning text to your family and friends letting them know how much you appreciate them.
2) Pay for the person behind you in the drive through at your next food stop
3) Ask someone how you can help lighten their load one day
4) Hold the door open for people, and do it with a smile whether they appreciate it or not
5) Pray for your loved ones in the same way you pray for yourself
6) Give a few compliments away, it won’t kill you!
7) Listen attentively to someone who is having a problem
8) Invite an old friend out to lunch to catch up
9) Take a cup of soup or medicine for a sick friend
10) Acknowledge someone else’s kindness to you
I hope you’ll start trying a few of these and begin reaping the benefits of a happier, healthier and longer life!
Until Next Time..