I can’t even begin to tell y’all how much I missed posting! If you didn’t notice, I kinda sorta went on a social media hiatus and therefore was barely posting anything. Don’t get too worried though, I’m doing just fine. I simply needed some time to breath and refocus. Anyhoo, let’s get to the point shall we? 🙂
I know a few people will probably disagree with me on this, but I think it’s about time we stop praising someone’s potential. I’ve come across tons of people who put so much emphasis on their partner’s potential that it completely disregards their present state. I remember when I was younger and all my teachers used to tell me how much potential I had. At the time I thought that was the best compliment I could ever receive. But I now realize that if I didn’t consistently work on myself to actually get better, all I would ever be is the girl with potential. Now before you come at me sideways– I thoroughly believe that dating someone with the potential to grow is essential to any relationship. I mean that’s a given don’t you think? But what if that potential will only ever be potential? What if that dream career your partner spends so much time talking about is always just a dream? Or the countless times you hear the words “I promise that I’ll get better” when we both know what they say about promises..
There are so many ways we convince ourselves that we have a great relationship because of what it has the potential to be. If we’re honest with ourselves and truly take a look at the reality of our situation, we’ll realize that we’ve squandered our time trying to build a stable relationship on a shaky foundation. You see–when we speak of someone’s potential, it means they haven’t really done anything. You’re holding on to a mere thought of what someone can be. It’s solely just a possibility of the relationship you actually want for yourself, which rarely ever transpires.
If you find yourself in this predicament, you’ll find that you’ll live your entire life falling in love with a continuous series of ideas as opposed to your actual partner. It’s extremely easy for this to happen seeing that in the beginning stages of a relationship, all our best qualities are highlighted. This is why it is so crucial to truly get to know someone before you enter into anything too deep. There will always be people who actually use their potential as a driving force to propel them further in life. However, I believe that there are tons more who will lure you into a situation where you’ll forever find yourself hoping that they will change.
I can speak on this because I’ve been there, just like you probably have. Wondering what happened?
Well, let’s see–
…then waited some more on them to just get it together. I prayed for them to change, then I hoped that they would become what they had the potential to become. Then I woke up the next day and did the same thing all over again. I can honestly tell you that you’re better off simply figuring out if the qualities your partner possesses that get under your skin are qualities that you can live with for the rest of your life. Because frankly, it may very well never change. And if it does, shoot me an email and let me in on the secret! Lol.
What it really boils down to is this–
Life is far too beautiful and precious for you to sit around waiting on someone to become the person you envision. You’ll waste too much time waiting on your partner to embody the level greatness you see in them. Don’t ever become a victim of your own optimism. Settling should never be an option!
Any thoughts? Let’s chat! 🙂
Until Next Time…