OHHHHH MAHHH GOSSHHH! Can y’all believe it’s officially ONE MONTH until I marry my best friend?!? [insert surprised face emoji here] It’s so crazy. I can still remember watching Bran get down on his knees earlier this year on April 1st and now the day is actually right around the corner. Somebody better come get me because this excitement is too much! Lol.
I have tons of wedding related links and tips to share, but of course I won’t be giving out all my secrets until after the big day. So while this may be the last blushing bride post for a few weeks, be sure to look out for what’s to come.
Well seeing that we have 4 weeks to go, I thought I’d share 4 things I’ve learned throughout my engagement process so far. So grab a pen and notepad and get ready to take some notes! Your time may be a lot sooner than you think. 🙂
1) Love Conquers All: When it comes down to it, love is what keeps us going. It sparks something within us that grants us with fresh new drive and momentum. Have there been moments where Brandon and I have wanted to throw in the towel? Absolutely. But in the same way Christ remains faithful to us by loving us wholeheartedly no matter what, is the same attitude we should be striving for. At the end of the day, we have to come to a point where we realize that love is greater than any disagreement or rough patch we may endure.
2) Know your partner–inside & out: This is such a big one for me. I’ve had to really come to terms with realizing that my way of thinking and my idea of “what love looks like” is completely different from Brandon’s own. I’ve found myself in such great misery stressing over things that I had no control over. If we learn to completely accept our partners, then we will live a much more peaceful life. I’m learning that I can’t expect Brandon to always get it or know what to do. The way I react to situations differs from how he acts. Mostly because of our gender differences–It’s just how we were made up. Learn your partner in ALL aspects. Understanding the way he or she thinks is critical in growing together as a couple.
3) Compromise is Key: It’s funny when people tell me that December 12th is MY day and all about ME. Most grooms tend to shy away from the wedding planning scene and have no problem with just showing up. On the other hand, Brandon is extremely involved in the entire process. Choosing the colors, decor, music, food and even flowers are topics that he gladly shared his opinions on. This was the first step to truly understanding the art of compromise. Recognizing that this day isn’t just mine, but we are equally sharing and basking in the joyous occasion. I’m no longer living for myself and neither will you be. Therefore, in everything we do, we must always think of our partner and how our decisions and actions may affect them. Loosen the rope a little, it’s okay to give in when the end result will be beneficial for the relationship.
4) Choose your battles wisely: This is also another vital lesson that I’m constantly learning. There is no relationship that does not undergo disagreements. In fact, it’s healthy to disagree simply because it shows that both parties are standing up for what they believe. However, there is a line that should never be crossed. Some things are just not worth fighting for. I used to spend days at a time in constant back and forth with Brandon trying to prove my point. It always led to even more frustration than when I started. Don’t ever jeopardize your relationship because of pride. I can’t tell you enough how hard it was to learn that lesson when I ultimately lost Brandon. There were things I would never back down on–big, small and really small. Listen–don’t be that person. I’ve now learned that some mountains are not meant to be climbed. You don’t have to address every problem that arises and furthermore, you don’t have to wear the frustration on your face and take the attitude with you in your purse. Just let go. If it won’t affect your relationship in the long run, think twice before causing a scene.
N.B–Forgive me in advance for being more absent than usual in the upcoming weeks. But stress levels are rising and there’s just so much to get done! Be sure to check out my homepage to follow me on social media and subscribe to the blog to stay in the known. Oh, and please keep us in your prayers!
How excited are you from a scale of 1-10?? I’m at at 11.5! [Haha] I can’t wait to share all the pics + videos with you! 🙂
Until Next Time…