The Blushing Bride Series: 8 Things I learned during wedding planning

The Blushing Bride Series

Today makes ONE MONTH since I’ve been married and I couldn’t be happier! I can’t believe how time flies! I literally feel like I was just planning for my big day last week. I learned so much during my wedding planning process that I couldn’t hold out on you. Now that I’ve had a few weeks to reflect, I rounded up 8 of the main tips I took away from planning the best day of my life. Whether you’re engaged or just curious, grab a notebook and pen and get ready to take some notes!

1)  Things won’t always turn out the way you planned: This point could be an entire post. I can’t stress to you enough how much I STRESS over the little things. But listen, that’s the wrong thing to do when planning your wedding. Life happens and there’s a very high chance that your big day won’t turn out exactly the way you planned it. And you know what? That’s okay. Sorry to break it to you, but nobody cares about the little details just as much as you do. There are things that went wrong on our wedding day that people didn’t have a clue about. The fact of the matter is, YOU planned this day so if anything goes a little off, the only person that will know is YOU. Don’t stress it, don’t overthink it and most importantly– don’t let it ruin your day. The most important thing to remember is that by the end of laughter, tears, great food and even better company, you’ll be married to your best friend.

2) Stick to your budget: Look, weddings are expensive man. There’s just no way around this. Unless of course you’re smart enough to go to the courthouse and call it day. (LOL) Just kidding! {or am I really??} But seriously though, the average cost of US weddings are about $26,000 (excuse me while I die slowly inside) That’s not to say couples don’t spend way less than that or way more, but whether your budget is $1000 or $100,000 do everything in your power to stick to it. Figure out what the most important part of your day is to you. Is it the best venue? The most popular photographer and videographer in your city? How about having everyone rave about how good the food was or what a great time they had dancing because of the DJ? Whatever it is, figure it out and budget for it! Place things in order of priority and you’ll have a much better chance at sticking to your budget. There will always be something else that you think you’ll need, especially if you become addicted to pinterest or the knot like most brides do during this time. What starts out as being simply looking at other weddings for inspiration in your spare time, quickly turns into an unhealthy obsession with comparing yourself to others and wanting to bite off way more than you can chew. Don’t let the pressure get to you, live within your means and don’t spend more than you have for people you want to impress. Because I guarantee you, one week after your wedding, those same people won’t even remember the menu.

3) Some grooms actually want to be involved: Maybe you’ll have the typical groom who doesn’t mind just showing up on the wedding day and not being apart of the planning process. But if your groom is anything like Brandon, he’ll want to be apart of everything and I mean EVERYTHING. From the color scheme + theme to the playlist to the seating chart to the very menu selection, my husband was apart of it. To be honest, if it was solely left up to me, we probably would have eloped. Lol. However, one thing you must realize is that your future husband should have just as much of an input in your wedding day as you do. Don’t leave him out of the equation. Find ways to always keep him in the loop even though we ladies still have the upper hand {insert wink emoji}

4) Your wedding isn’t always just YOUR wedding: This must be the hardest pill to swallow. Let me tell you this: As much as you may want to think it and as much as your friends and family will tell you it is, your wedding day isn’t solely about you. That’s right, I said it. The fact of the matter is, you’ve invited guests from all around the world to witness the best day of your life. You’ve also asked a select few to be even more involved by being in the bridal party. Not to mention your family who has only dreamed of your wedding day for their entire life. These are things you MUST think about. While the ultimate decision and details of your wedding should always be yours, don’t exclude the people who have helped you along the way. In our case, our parents played the biggest financial role in our wedding which meant that we had to take their opinion into consideration as well.

5) Plan ahead: It may seem like you have a lot of time to plan, but you’ll be amazed at how quickly time flies right by. With this being said, please don’t wait until the last minute to do anything. I’m a natural planner at heart which I got from my Mommy. So it was great being able to set things in place months in advance. Can I let you in on a little secret? Brandon and I were planning our wedding before he even proposed to me! LOL. Crazy right? Call it what you wish, but this saved us loads of time when it was actually time to plan. On the other hand, I did mess up a bit by waiting to order certain things online. If you know you will be making a lot of purchases online whether it’s invitations, souvenirs or even your bridal party gifts, please take into consideration the shipping costs and details of each website you plan to order from. I could have saved myself a whole lot of express shipping costs if I didn’t wait until weeks before my wedding day.

6) So what if it’s tradition? From the very beginning, Brandon and I decided to do things a bit differently. Brandon has always had this thing where he despises being like anyone else and I personally just love being creative. With a combination like that, we were bound to have a wedding like no other. You don’t always have to stick to tradition just because you think that’s what you’re supposed to do. Your wedding can still be spiritual and meaningful without doing everything by the books. You can even make your own tradition. I’m pretty sure most of our guests came to our wedding expecting it to be a typical and traditional ceremony and reception, especially due to our Christian background. However, they all walked away shocked out of their minds with how innovative and different the day turned out to be. (I promise I’m not tooting my own horn, this is what they told us! LOL) I want you to be just as surprised when I share the official video and pictures with you in a few weeks so I won’t give anything away just yet.

7) Be selective when choosing your bridal party: This one is another big one. I don’t know about you, but I wanted my wedding day to be extremely intimate. Therefore, I was very selective when choosing my guest list and furthermore my bridesmaids. Make sure that you carefully sit down and think about who you want to share that special day with. It’s not to be taken lightly. You should always strive to choose friends that you know have been around for a long time and people that you know will be in your life long term. Not only does this ensure a better flow on the day because of the genuine love and support that will be there on their part, but it also means that you will deal with much less “bridal party drama” during wedding planning. I’ve heard so many horror stories about how bridal parties completely ruined wedding plans, but I’m glad to say I can’t remember ever having a problem with ours. It wasn’t luck, it was all a matter of being wise in our selection process.

8) It’ll all be worth it: Relax, you can breath now. I can finally say that after months of wedding planning and seeing all my dreams become a reality, there’s absolutely nothing I’d change. Your day will be everything you imagined it to be and more. Despite the number of things that could possibly go wrong, when it’s all said and done, you’ll be happy with the results. So enjoy the planning process while you can. Take in every ounce of it. Those are days you can never get back.


I never thought I’d say this, but I low key actually miss the rush of planning so much! But it’s all good now because I enjoy marriage even more. <3

Anything you’d like to add to the list?Let’s talk about it! 🙂


Talk soon,


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